Testimony – Speak the truth in Love

I love this testimony. Last night, I was talking to a friend on the phone.  She is having some difficulties in discussions with a devoted Christian by day, and what it appears to be an alcoholic by night. He gets angry, swears, calls names, and hangs up the phone.  She was asking me how to handle the situation.  I said that I was standoffish on giving advice that may cause a hindrance to what God is doing in this situation. I encouraged her to not take things personally and to let God do what He’s doing.  She wanted to know what she is doing wrong, how to handle it correctly, if she should walk away from the situation, etc.  I suggested she be wise and be aware of who her audience is.. and if she says/does things that are hitting a nerve w/ this person while they are drunk, she should be careful and choose her word’s wisely.  But I agreed that she should continue to hold him accountable, as a fellow Christian should, and to do so the very next day when he is of clear mind. In the end, we focused on prayer.. and praying to God for assistance in the situation so that she does not base things on her own understanding.  We agreed that this was a child of God that needed her and it would not be good to allow the self to respond/act..  We had to give it to God and pray.

My daily devotion this morning answered our prayer that we prayed last night on the phone, for the Lord to help her in this situation.. for guidance.. so she can help His blessed child –

By Rick Warren – Jesus gave honest counsel

A friend means well even when he hurts you. Proverbs 27:6 (Good News)

Jesus shows us that real friends care enough to confront. Even when it’s painful, they’ll tell you the truth. They won’t let you waste your life in silence: “A friend means well even when he hurts you.” Proverbs27:6 (Good News)

I’ve found that correcting another person in a loving way is powerful. Done the right way, it builds people up. The difference between the right and the wrong way is your attitude. If all you’re doing is pointing out faults, then stop. The purpose has to be to correct, not to condemn.

You need to ask, “What’s my motive in this? Am I correcting him for my benefit or for his benefit?”

A lot of times we want to correct people just because they’re being jerks and they’re hassling us. We think, “If they would stop being such a jerk, my life would be easier.”

That’s the wrong motive.

Instead, follow Ephesians 4:15, which says, “Speak the truth in love.” So the key to proper correction: Affirm the person; then correct the behavior.